another piece of advice i have for those living with partners or roommates: some days you are going to feel very productive while they seem kind of spacey/distracted/wanting to relax, and vice versa.
a phrase we have implemented is “is it playtime?” because sometimes you dont have the mental battery to be the present adult your partner/roommate is asking of you and need time to relax. also because i think its silly.
if you can communicate that between both parties then you can find a later time that you can work with them or figure out what needs to be taken care of right now. by communicating boundaries of “worktime” “playtime” you can respect each-others energy levels while still picking times to work together and achieve tasks as adults.
“whataboutism” is such a stupid fucking term and i don’t take anyone who throws it around seriously. like yeah actually using comparative analysis and citing other examples relative to the topic as a metric for the topic’s broader significance actually is a pretty logical and effective argumentative strategy believe it or not LOL
